Getting Closure: Throw yourself a divorce theme party!

Why not kick off the start of your new life with a "Divorce Theme Party". You've signed all the papers and are ready to move on to your life as a single person again. Having a specific event like this can help you mark the transition from "married" to "singlehood" and aid in your divorce recovery process.

One problem with divorce is there is no ceremonial closure for it. Most significant transitions in our life are marked by some type ceremony. Whether it is the passing of another year(birthday parties), bar mitzvahs, sweet sixteens, weddings or even funerals provide us with a way to mark the event and put closure on it.


Having a "divorce celebration" is a nice way to acknowledge that you are letting go of the sad and painful memories of the past and moving into your new life of peace, growth, and happiness.

Invite a few of your closests friends to your divorce theme party, buy some munchies and your favorite cocktails and make a toast to your new life. Get some divorce theme party supplies. Download some of the best "break up" music (the website dhpro.com has some great ideas) Personally, I like the songs that are empowering and uplifting, such as:

  • "I'm coming out" - by Diana Ross

  • "I'm still standing" - by Elton John

  • "Almost over you"-by Sheena Easton

  • "Hit the road Jack"- by Ray Charles

and there are many more to choose from. But do not play music that is to sad or depressing. This is a party about healing and growth, not regret and remorse.



What type of party is best for me?



Well, this all depends on what type of divorce celebration you want to have. It can be fun and wild or calm and contemplative. You could symbolically shred a picture or old love letters from your ex. Some people find it helpful to write a letter to themselves and read out loud at a certain point in the party.

In her book "Life After Divorce", author Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse attaches a copy of a divorce ceremony letter, which I really like because it does not place blame and encourages mutual responsiblity for the problems in the marriage that led to divorce. But unlike her suggestion, I would not have your spouse at your divorce theme party.

So get started on that party planning!!


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